I was reading some article recently on giving your blog readers WHAT THEY WANT and I was kind of stymied because I don’t actually know WHAT YOU WANT. While I try and stay within the parameters of traveling, disability and parenting, I’m pretty much all over the place with this blog. Kind of like in real life.
So I asked the Facebook hive mind what you all would like to see more or less of on the blog, what makes this worth your while to read.
This is a question I always want to ask but never do because it seems so loaded. You know, like, a total invitation to tell ME what you love about ME! And while I love knowing the good stuff, don’t get me wrong, I have a firm appreciation for knowing the other stuff too. Not so I can stress out about it or feel bad – I have very thick skin in this regard – it’s because if I have 10 stories to tell, I’d rather tell the one that you actually want to listen to.
I’d still appreciate feedback if you are up for it.
In the meantime, a friend did say that she wanted to hear a little more about how Mikey and I make our marriage work on the road like this.
I think I laughed till I cried when I read that!!! Because I’m telling you, we have hung on to our marriage by our FINGERNAILS this past year!! It has been so fricking hard.
We keep saying to each other that we just have to get through this year – just get through this. This is the hard part. Look at all those cool old people, those couples that we admire so much. They’ve been together for like 40 years and are so mellow and happy with one another. They all went through rough patches, they just kept their noses down and plowed ahead and GOT THROUGH IT.
This isn’t touchy-feely PC-American. We aren’t reading those books (we have them, we just can’t seem to get through them), we don’t go to therapy (- we’d love to but HA! How’s that going to happen??), we don’t have date-nights (-see previous), we don’t even get to sleep with each other when we camp because we have two separate trailers and the kids can’t be left alone yet!
And with the business of 3 little kids and the lifestyle we choose, we have had moments where we would be thrilled if the other took a hike to Mars and never came back. Only, maybe sometimes. To help change the diapers and feed the kids!
Things are really good between us now because we have gotten to the point where we can joke and laugh a lot about how ridiculous this all is. We’re also actively planning for next year, what we want to avoid in this mess we’ve made of not being able to have the space for one another.
Our answer looks something like this:
Room for us, room for the kids, space for them to play, space for us to play.
It’s been hard for us to feel attracted to what I call a “McRig”, which is you know, the ugly fiberglass linoleum beige-tastic piece of lower-cost comfort that most people use. Mikey and I love the retro stuff, Airstreams, even tricked out fabulous school buses.
But we don’t have the money for uber-kool retro rigs or Airstreams and we don’t have the time to trick out a school bus. We need to be able to buy and go.
So… yeah. We’ve made peace with it.
And right now, seriously, this dream is making us happy when it gets to be too much. We feel like screaming from being squashed in the camper and we look at each other and say,