Dana’s my brother. My best friend, the person I’ve been closest to my whole life.

He was shot in September 2016, a victim in an armed robbery. He went into a coma and never woke up. He died on September 5th, Labor Day.

I’ve been trying to learn how to live without him.

The site that I made that holds some stories about Dana: Dana in Our Hearts

Dana’s Place: An Update on My Career Trajectory

This is an update post about Dana's Place with an emphasis on ... Read more

Understanding the Connection Between Flowers and Stars

This is a post about grief. I'll never forget driving to the ... Read more

The Truth About Bullets

On guns, grief and the truth the stories don’t tell

On a Blue Butterfly We Will Fly

This is a post about missing my brother Dana, and birthdays. When ... Read more

Dana’s Place: An Update in the Here and Now

I had a dream last night. In it, my brother Dana was ... Read more

Here’s What Will Help You With Your Grief

A mostly-material smorgasbord of things that have helped me with grief.

Where I’m Going, What I’m Planning: A Personal Post

It's been a while since I've written a personal post on this ... Read more

The Impact of Disability on Siblings : The Story of Dana and Meriah

Here is the story of growing up with my brother Dana, first … Read more

“Don’t Be Scared of the Dark,” He Said

This is a post about grief. I had been crying so hard ... Read more

Full Circle

When we first moved to Hawaii from Fiji, Dana was 14 and ... Read more

If I Had Known Then What I Know Now

Trigger Warning: guns, violence, death. Grief. I am astonished at how aimless ... Read more

Walking Through Water

My brother has been gone for 4 months I've developed a routine: ... Read more

Pinched Off

Dana has been gone for 3 months.

Proof of Heaven?

Eben Alexander’s “Proof of Heaven”

A Bathtub

I’m having a hard day. Everything is reminding me of Dana, and … Read more

The Rabbit Hole

tunneling sides of grief.

He is Gone

Dana has gone.

It’s Not Over Till It’s Over

Well. It turns out that Dana had been really into this one … Read more

Golden Boy

My memories help keep me strong – and writing helps too.


In the middle of a flight or fight.