Why I am Not Touching the Story about the Abandoned Baby with Down syndrome

There is a story that is going seriously viral right now, about an Australian couple that had a surrogate mother in Thailand grow them twins. When one of the twins was born with Down syndrome and health complications, the couple apparently abandoned him and went on back to the Land Down Under with their one non-disabled twin.

That’s the story that’s flooding the internets here in the United States.

When I first saw the story in my news feed, I took a step back.

This is not a story that I want to delve deeply into and here’s why:

1. This is not just an issue of abandonment and disability.

For issues clearly and solely about abandonment and disability, go over to Eastern Europe or even here in the United States. Our foster care system is chock full of children who have been abandoned, and many of them because they have a disability.

Eastern Europe is even worse. There, you can find horrific real situations that harken back to Willowbrook and all that we used to do right here in the good ole US of A.  Only while we stopped, they are still locking those abandoned children with disabilities up in institutions for life, many of them starving to death and wasting away in ways that will make your soul weep.

That’s abandonment and disability, straight up. No debate about it.

The Thai case may also be about abandonment and disability but it’s also about surrogacy, it’s about the concept of renting a lower-priced womb in a developing country. It’s about the framework for such things, and hey – is this even right? Should this be happening? Should rich women be allowed to rent wombs of poorer women, is this all okay because it doesn’t feel right.

If the Thai case can be compared to a sundae, then disability is the whipped cream and cherry on it – the real substance of the sundae – the ice cream and chocolate, so to speak – are the issues of surrogacy and developing/developed countries.

2. The parents are telling a different story

According to the Bunbury Mail, the parents say that the story of abandonment is one of “lies” – read the article – it’s linked HERE. This is pretty heavy-duty, you guys – they are talking about legal rights made null, about congenital health issues and military lockdown. The latter part is the one that I find the most believable – I know how it can be when you are in a country and something like a lockdown is happening and you have choices that need to be made hard and fast.

3. There is news that the biological father is a pedophile

The biological father of the twin with Down syndrome was convicted of 22 counts of child sex crime (- from the Daily Mail, linked HERE).

Whoah. Utterly revolting and gut-wrenchingly sickening when you also consider that the child they took home was a girl and also that the surrogate mother KNEW of the sex convictions.

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Now, I don’t know what is true or not. I think there are 3 people in this world that know exactly what happened there and unfortunately, they are not issuing a joint statement.

It’s word vs. word and what I see happening is a lot of pro-life and advocacy groups hopping on to the story itself as a springboard for other causes.

So I’m going to stay out of it.

But do I ever hope that the twins – innocent of anything other than being born – are protected and raised with the loving care that they deserve.

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Meriah Nichols is a deaf artist, tech-junkie, Counselor (and sometime teacher), mom (one with Down syndrome), cat-lover, Trekkie, yurt-dwelling off-the-grid farmer's wife. She writes about travel, disability, and getting dishes done.

5 Comments

  • Interesting — he looked like a baby to me in all the pics I saw. There are now reports that the dad is a convicted pedophile who has been jailed a couple of times for indecently assaulting girls under the age of 13.

  • Naturally being here in Australia it is all over our news. I totally agree it’s more about surrogacy and developing countries and I have no idea what they are going to do but the latest was the Thai Mum trying to see where she stands legally to have both children with her. It’s so very very complicated.

  • What about the fact that the couple apparently asked her to have an abortion. Is that not just as relevant as the surrogacy issue?

    • I don’t think that is as relevant, because it’s “apparently”. They “apparently” asked her. It’s a matter of her word vs. theirs.
      There is no question about the surrogacy piece.

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