Traveling With a Child With Down Syndrome

traveling with a child with Down syndrome

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Traveling With a Child With Down Syndrome

I’ve seen a lot of questions about traveling with a child with Down syndrome

on Down syndrome parent forums. Questions like, “our child has Down syndrome; does this mean that our traveling days are over?” “she has Down syndrome! Is Hawaii still an option?” “We were planning on Europe next year, but since he has Down syndrome, I guess not…?”

People seem to think that all of their dreams need to be chucked if their child has Down syndrome (and I don’t know why I’m talking about this like it’s everyone except me, because before I had Moxie and got to know her, I did too!). Of course, that’s pretty ridiculous to me now, almost 7 years into raising a child with Down syndrome.

A kid with Down syndrome is just that: a kid with Down syndrome. No more, no less.

Like all kids, a child with Down syndrome has the potential to totally bend your world.. or not. Depends on you, really.

We Travel with Our Daughter with Down Syndrome!

My husband and I are both third culture kids – we were raised outside the United States. If we have a dime, we’ll spend it on travel, and even if we don’t, we find a way to make it happen.

We first started taking Moxie, our daughter with Down syndrome, with us when she was a baby. We travelled by plane and bus in Mexico.

Our next trip was again to Mexico, only this time, we were driving there from California and camping on the beaches.

We went back and forth to Mexico like that until we left to travel the Pan-American highway in search of our “forever home” in which we could also build an Inn that would be working on hospitality (farm-to-table) training and more for people with disabilities.

Well, that plan was aborted after my brother Dana bought a farm on the Lost Coast of California. We hightailed it back north from Mexico and Moxie has been raised off the grid in an extremely small, extremely rural community.

She is raised pretty much free-range.

Since moving to the Lost Coast, we’ve traveled to Cambodia, Vietnam, Thailand, New York City, Oregon, Arizona and Hawaii in addition to more Mexico trips.

Things To Consider While Traveling with a Child with Down Syndrome

When I said that ‘your kid with Down syndrome is just that: a kid with Down syndromeI said the words “Down syndrome.”

Down syndrome can be an enormous deal or not, that’s your call really, but it is something. It is a syndrome. It does affect your child, and that does affect things like travel.

How exactly it affects each person who has that extra chromosome is different, but some similarities that affect travel seem to be:

  1. bolting (that is, running and not stopping when called back)
  2. flop and drop (dropping and refusing to budge)
  3. food preferences (like any child, but maybe more?)
  4. communication issues (difficult speaking/signing)

Some people with Down syndrome also have weaker immune systems, but that has not been our experience, so I will stick with what I know for sure to be true in traveling and free-range living with our daughter.

In talking about some of the issues we’ve faced in traveling with a child with Down Ssndrome, I’m going to work through each point I listed above:

  1. Bolting

Hands down, this is the biggest issue. It’s scary, because as only another parent of a child with a disability that includes bolting knows, your child just tears off at lightening speed and you often aren’t even aware of it until they are out of sight.

It’s different from typically developing children running off, which is explained wonderfully in Supporting Positive Behavior in Children and Teens with Down Syndrome (which is the best book I ever read regarding issues I have with Moxie, well worth the money).

While the book explains bolting and gives great techniques for curbing it, we have long used carriers, leashes, child trackers and the stroller for Moxie.

Carriers:

We tried a lot of carriers, but I’m not going to waste time on anything other than what really worked for us:

Carriers are what we needed when we traveling hard-to-access areas or areas in which there were a lot of people.

Leashes:

First we used the ubiquitous “animal harness” leash – the one with the stuffed animal on her back, with a clip to a leash.

When she was around 4 years old, she was capable of breaking out of the clip, and as we were in Mexico at the time, we stopped by a belt maker’s shop and had a leash custom made. It was a belt for her that attached to a sturdy leash for us. You can probably macgiver something similar for yourself.

Child Trackers:

We used the Guardian Angel tracker, which was fine. You could do this beeping thing to find out where you child was. It was a pain in the butt to keep on Moxie though; we were always trying to figure out how to attach it to her in a way she wouldn’t remove. I think these options look a lot better (especially the necklace):

Strollers:

We’ve used a ton of different brands and types of strollers, and in the end, I won’t recommend anything for travel except the BOB (and the City Select Double, if you are going on urban adventures and have more than one child to put in the stroller).

BOB Revolution: Get the single if you have one child, double for two. Moxie is 6 years old and we still use it, and plan to until she’s 10 years old, or stops bolting, whichever comes first.

Here’s the link to the BOB Revolution Dualie at Target; here it is for Amazon. Don’t forget the snack tray; it makes escaping difficult for the kids (sans seat belts), and it keeps things tidier for eating.

I need to be really clear: don’t mess with the jogger or Ironman or any other (cheaper) model of the BOB; there is a reason they are cheaper! They are not as maneuverable.

The BOB Revolution will do ANYTHING. Those bubbas can way past the recommended 50 lb weight limits, have tires that are fit for bikes, suspension systems and frames of steel or something.

If you can’t afford it new, look at funding, or search Craigslist.

For us travelers, the stroller has an additional feature that’s worth it’s weight in gold: gate check on flights. That means that you can carry the kids (and the bags) on the stroller right to the airplane gate, and when you disembark, the stroller is there, waiting for you.

2. Flop and Drop

Techniques for dealing with this are discussed in the Supporting Positive Behaviors. What we’ve done until now though is simply pick her up and put her in the stroller.

3. Food Preferences

This is a big deal if you are with a child who simply refuses to budge on eating certain things. Our first born (Micah) is a major foodie; everything is fun for him. Moxie (our child with Down syndrome), looks up to Micah, so that’s a win for us. She will however, sometimes refuse to budge.

We work with what we can – keep her food divided for her, give her the rice or noodles she craves. She likes choices, so things work better for us if we say, for example, do you want SPICY grasshoppers or NOT SPICY grasshoppers?

traveling with a child with Down syndrome

We also do a lot of “first, then” – like, “FIRST you eat this, THEN you eat this.”

Since she learns best by following our example, we also happily and with gusto dive into anything we really want her try and eat. Competition can also work with her, “who is going to try this tasty food FIRST? Moxie or Mack?!

4. Communication Issues

Moxie’s almost 7 year old and has recently had a verbal explosion. She’s speaking quite a lot now. But prior to this, we’ve had to rely on ASL, her nonverbal communication (expression, gestures, etc), intuition and so forth.

It hasn’t been easy.

When we travel, we do have her devices stocked with her favorite shows and apps to try and prevent her being upset over being bored or what-have-you. We also have her headphones, so it doesn’t get too loud for others.

Moxie's an awesome traveler

Our experience in traveling with a child with Down syndrome has been great. Our daughter Moxie is a first rate traveler.

We keep her occupied on the plane if we want to prevent her from running down the aisles and taking joy-rides to the bathrooms (which she loves on account of how small they are – moxie-sized!). We also make sure we have a handle on her bolting, and that she’s in eye shot of us at all times.

She’s fun to travel with: she’s energetic, curious, lively, and friendly. We love experiencing the world with her and her brothers, and get a kick out of her perspectives (check out some of her photography here).

We learn more about her and her strengths while traveling (we never thought she’d be so good at boogie boarding, for example), and she learns more about the world.

My advice is: if you are a traveler, DON’T STOP traveling just because you have a kid with Down syndrome. 

Traveling with a child with Down syndrome does not fundamentally change the experience of traveling itself – it just changes aspect of preparation.

Maybe you can hold off on traveling if you’ve never been into it, but by all means, don’t stop just because of an extra chromosome.  Just take a few extra precautions like I’ve mentioned in this post, and go for it!

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Traveling with a child with Down syndrome

Meriah

is a deaf blogger, global nomad, tech-junkie, cat-lover, Trekkie, Celto-Teutonic-peasant-handed mom of 3 (one with Down syndrome and one gifted 2E).

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4 Comments

  • Hi Mariah- I have been following you and Moxie for a while and have a 16 year old son with DS in Australia. Like you, we choose to spend a lot of our saved$ on travel. We have taken him to Thailand, Bali, Cambodia, Vietnam and camping through the Kimberley area of Australia. The bolting does stop and for a while there I assumed we would never set foot on a beach again! He will chat to anyone and that can be a great introduction to the locals! He still needs to have something to look forward to if we have a travel day full of things that don’t interest him- in Siem Reap he stuck with the temples knowing that he had an afternoon ahead in the hotel pool. I truly believe that exposing our kids to a wide variety of experiences does them a whole lot of good. Its not the easy path but it’s the rewarding path. Keep up your awesome blogging and parenting!

    • Thank you!!! I couldn’t agree more about exposing our kids to a wide variety of experiences, and that it’s not easy but it’s rewarding. Thanks so much for commenting.

  • I got my son’s passport made when he was three months old. I never questioned whether he would travel with me or not…we’re travellers! In his first almost 8 years, he has been to Quebec, Spain, Ireland, Puerto Rico, Jamaica, and Mexico. I keep him busy, busy, busy on the plane, but for longer flights, I book a night flight, eat dinner in the airport, inform the flight attendants we don’t want to be disturbed for dinner, and when the plane takes off, he’s out like a light and bright-eyed and bushy-tailed when we land. Foreign countries are very accommodating when it comes to picky little eaters, and my son has been exposed to other languages since birth, so he’s always eager to try speaking and showing off his counting skills to anyone we meet. People have told me I’ve inspired them to travel with their kids (with and without Ds), but for me there was never a question. We’re a travelling family, period.

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