Truth Telling & THINK What to Tell

THINK: Think about it

I had a post on Scary Mommy last week. I know! Scary Mommy! So it was not only shared 5,000 times, it was seen by around oh, 50 million people.

I didn’t post about it on facebook. Other than a couple of people (like, literally, two people), I didn’t tell anyone about it.

What should have been one of my highlights of the year – and certainly has made the pinnacle of my guest posting career to date – I put a blanket on and almost hid.

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It’s because of the post, of course.

It was “Choosing Moxie” which is a difficult one, coming right from my heart as it does. In it, I uncurl myself from the fetal position and talk about things that are painful. Things I don’t necessarily want to talk about, like the hurt. Or abuse. Or about the choice to keep a living child with an intellectual disability.

I feel that we live in a culture that is ripe with over-sharing, with telling all. The very nature of a blog seems to lean towards that, rampant disclosure of a too-personal bent. I hesitate over sharing some of this hard stuff because I am (believe it or  not) a very private person in real life, and also because I try hard to THINK before I speak:

T- Is it true?

H-Is it helpful?

I-Is it inspiring?

N-Is it necessary?

K-Is it kind?

 

And that is ultimately why I make the decision to share.

That is why I choose to hit “send”, why the hard stuff is slowly starting to come out of me.

Because I know it’s true. I think it is helpful and I believe it is necessary.

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I believe it is necessary as we live in a time of great choice. Great opportunity and great information are all around us. But so too are hurt and fear. Heart wounds.

And silence.

We don’t want to talk about some of the things that are so hard. We don’t want to make others uncomfortable, we don’t want to burden them. But our silence doesn’t help the other people who are also experiencing hurt, loss and fear.

In their moments, they feel more alone than perhaps they have ever felt in their lives – because we don’t talk about these things, you see, as a culture, we don’t.

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I’m not for the over-spill though. I don’t want to know every little skanky detail on everyone. I am sure you don’t want to know that about me, either.

So we’ve come full circle, back to where we started:

T- Is it true?

H-Is it helpful?

I-Is it inspiring?

N-Is it necessary?

K-Is it kind?

It’s not that every one of these questions needs to be answered “yes” but I think slipping the questions around a nugget of experience, a kernel of pain, a shred of shared vulnerability, is a useful litmus on whether or not something should be shared.

 

THINK: Think about it
THINK: Think about it

PS

And back to Scary Mommy!!!! I was deeply touched by the comments people made and the new connections that are forming through that post. If you read Choosing Moxie there – thank you for coming here and for continuing to grace this blog with your good energy and friendship.

 

 PSS

Okay,zulily.com has Birkenstocks on today. Like the cool kind, gladiator style and stuff. Plus SQUEAKY shoes like the ones we get for Moxie, hella sweet vintage couture that won’t fit me (but might fight skinny you), plus sized stuff that WILL fit me and great books, and gnome garden decor. FUN. Plus: the first person who buys anything – I mean anything! – through that link there is going to be giving us a $50 referral bonus from zulily which I promise I’ll put in the kids savings account and not use for something like a pedicure. Cross my heart. Your shopping will go towards something good. Plus it’s fun. So here’s the link again: ZULILY.

Thanks!

 

Meriah

is a deaf blogger, global nomad, tech-junkie, cat-lover, Trekkie, Celto-Teutonic-peasant-handed mom of 3 (one with Down syndrome and one gifted 2E).

She likes her coffee black and hot.


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